It seems that in this day and age, keeping a marriage together and finding ways to focus on marriage intimacy is harder than ever before. There seem to be more social pressures, with work, family and personal obligations all piling up. Many couples want to improve their marriage, but finding time to do so takes the back burner to what they consider to be more pressing problems.
If you find yourself in this situation, take a moment to readjust your attitude. Many couples think that the marriage will be there later, and when they have the time and energy to work on it, they will. In the meantime, they accept that just getting by has to be good enough. This kind of reasoning might seem to take the pressure off for a period of time, but in reality it's only working to make every aspect of your life more difficult.
To understand the concept, imagine that your life is a giant pizza, and your marriage is the dough. You can add the highest quality pizza sauce, the most interesting and delicious toppings, but if you don't start with a strong pizza dough, the rest of your toppings can't save it.
Your marriage is the same way. No matter what other activities you fill your life with, no matter how fulfilling your career is, or how strong your friendships are, if you don't have a solid base, adding other elements to your life is not going to have the desired effect. On the other hand, if you work to build your marriage intimacy and make it stronger, you'll find that every aspect of your life is easier to manage and that you're able to experience more joy from it.
One of the reasons that couples often put off improving their marriage is that it seems so complicated. They think of all the things they're doing wrong, all the baggage they're carrying, and they simply don't know where to start. They feel that really improving their marriage requires a complete overhaul. The good news is that there are simple and easy steps that can get you moving on the right path.
A simple attitude adjustment can work wonders to improve your marriage. Instead of focusing on all the things your partner is doing wrong, take a moment to focus on what they're doing right. Don't just think of grand gestures, think of the little things they do every day without even thinking about it. Perhaps they always take a moment to pour you a cup of coffee before they pour their own, or they have learned to take the trash out without being asked.
While these small things might seem miniscule to you, they are the real foundation of marriage intimacy. Your partner isn't perfect and they can't do everything the way you want them to all of the time. However, noticing the small things they do for you on a daily basis can help adjust your feelings from those of sadness, bitterness or loneliness, and help you remember the reasons you want to make your marriage work in the first place.
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